Are you too defensive?
Did anybody ever tell you that you are “too defensive?” This probably happened, but do you know what the meaning of this is? The chances are that if you are indeed a defensive person, you are already angry just because you read that.
All of us make mistakes, and sometimes people around us call us out on them. Yeah, it is true that there are instances when we were not wrong and the other person is, in fact, the one who is mistaken. But today we are talking about the case when you did or said something inappropriate.
The way you react to accusations is the main indicator of how defensive you are. Do you instantly feel sorry and ask the other person to explain to you why you were wrong? Or you feel how anger quickly takes over you, and the first thing you say is that what they are saying is simply not true?
Once again the zodiac is here to tell us a little bit about the world around us. There are some people who are more likely to get defensive, and their star sign is a great way to start recognizing them. Are you one of these people? Read on and find out!
Cancer
These guys take the whole defensiveness thing to a whole new level. They are ruled by the Moon, and because of this, Cancers are incredibly emotional. Combine this with some criticism, and you get a disaster.
Since they are so sensitive, they will take even the slightest criticism personally, so they will feel attacked no matter how you phrase it. So, if you notice that the Cancer in question becomes cold and detached after you tell them they did something wrong, this is the cause. They feel hurt by your words, but their nature doesn’t let them lash out in obvious ways.
Wondering why they get defensive? Well, it all comes from their deep need for emotional security. If they are hurt, they can’t let go of the pain that easily. This tendency to hold on to past wounds means they are slow to forgive and quick to assume the worst in others.
When you see them approaching such situations like this, you might perceive them as unapproachable. In reality, they are warm people, but they are afraid of getting hurt. Once you get to their heart, you will have one of the most loving friends ever.
Aries
These warriors are always on guard, and they will get defensive to protect what they believe is rightfully theirs. They are well-known for being impulsive, and their defensiveness is basically second nature. What is funny is that the ram will never wait for a good reason to defend itself. They just have to assume you are accusing them of something, and they will react accordingly, with no second thoughts.
Aries tend to mistrust people, and most of the time they base this trait on personal experience. They are not paranoid, but they want to be safe, and sometimes they might come off as anxious. These people will defend their ground, and as a result, they will often feel on edge most of the time.
So, they are defensive, both as a habit they have learned over time because they need this shield to keep themselves sane. Aries see the world as a battleground, and they try to perceive any small critique as a threat.
Considering this attitude, Aries ends up isolating themselves, and making genuine connections becomes harder. They are strong and resilient, but they should remember that not all of the people are mean and want to betray them.
Virgo
They are very dedicated because they truly believe in their principles, and this is how Virgos are the ones who will always pour their whole heart into what they care about. But this admirable devotion comes with some downsides because these people don’t just simply love; they own what they love, and when you are stepping into their world, you should be careful about it and try to not offend them.
In their minds, once you start to show interest in something they love, they can’t help but also think about the possibility that you might destroy what they have, and this is how they become defensive. This is not like they have something personal with you; it’s just how Virgos operate.
These guys are cautious, and they always expect the worst from others. The result of this is that the walls they build and their attitude can quickly turn into rudeness. The walls they have around make a real fortress that is guarded by cannons, so be cautious when you approach them.
You are probably very aware of all that we said here if it ever happened to debate or challenge a Virgo about something they’re passionate about. The way they cut you off mid-sentence with their sharp words makes things very clear. They are here to stay, and you have no chance against them.
Virgo’s protectiveness comes from a place of love and loyalty, but when they become defensive, it can be kind of hard to approach. It’s important to always remember that beneath that tough exterior, though, lies a kind and loving heart.
Taurus
They are ruled by Venus, the planet of love and beauty, but don’t let this fool you and make you believe that they are just some softies. Yes, they can be soft, but this side of them is something you’ll see only after they get to know you better.
One thing you need to know about them is that they don’t waste time second-guessing their instincts. If a Taurus feels like you’ve wronged them or maybe simply looked at them sideways, they’ll act swiftly.
Once they believe you are not trustworthy, they will leave no room for negotiations. You wronged them, and they will not take any explanation or apology. As soon as they made up their minds, it was really hard to make them see the other side of things.
Most of the time they become defensive because they want to protect their peace. They are not paranoid; they just love comfort. Taurus thrives on stability and hates anything that threatens their comfort or sense of security.
We know that this is a harsh approach, but this is also what makes Taurus so reliable. They are not afraid to protect their world, and once you become one of the people they love, you can be sure you have a companion for life.
Libra
Maybe you were not expecting to see them on this list, but here they are! A lesser-known thing about Libras is that they like to collect things. lovers, friends, pets, random trinkets, and, occasionally, stuff that is completely useless. Everything they collect is a treasure for them, and if you dare to criticize anything in their collection, you’re officially in for some trouble.
Libras will defend the things and people they find precious, and you should be prepared for it. Imagine this like poking a sleeping dragon. You would never do that, right? Try to respect the same rule when it comes to Libras, and you should be safe.
If you think that you can win an argument against them, well, this is not the case. This is something that will never happen because Libras are very good at reasoning, and you will only get out worse than you’ve entered from any confrontation with them. So you better stay safe and try not to argue with them when they get defensive.
If you feel like you are the defensive one, this book might help: How to Stop Being Defensive: Step-by-Step Guide on How to Take Criticism Positively
You should also read: The Most Toxic Zodiac Pairings